When it comes to changing your mind, do you view that as a negative? In other words, do you have the perception of someone changing his or her mind as being indecisive or weak? Well, there are several reasons why changing your mind can, in fact, be a positive thing.
From childhood, there are many stories we tell ourselves as we absorb the environment around us. For some of us, we might believe that our siblings are older, wiser, and smarter, and that we simply cannot match up with their intelligence. For others, there may be a mindset of living small because every time we saw someone else achieve something great tall poppy syndrome struck. Doing better may have somehow been viewed or interpreted as wrong and unaccepting.
Sometimes we are given labels and, all too often, we have no clue that we do not have to accept or even identify with those labels. We may be taught that Johnny is the math genius while Suzy is the musician in the family – a limiting mindset that is more or less fixed. Did you know that you can change those labels by working harder to be whatever it is you wish to be in the world?
A growth mindset also plays a huge role in overcoming emotional eating. A growth mindset takes on challenges as a way to expand and grow and this is important when it comes to healing your relationship with food.
Your mindset shapes who you are as a person, how you view yourself and how you believe that others see you. Did you know that you don’t have to stay stuck in the same mindset? I find this so exciting and it is an area that I go into great detail in my Enrich, Nourish & Love Coaching Program.
Within that program we focus on Enriching your Mind as the first step in the road to recovery because the mind plays such an important role in our emotional eating.
So how can you begin to change your mindset?
· Start by recognising that you are capable and have the ability to change your mindset. This is the first step in changing your mind.
· Recognise that you can change your label at any time. All you have to do is choose to do so.
· Next, it’s time to get to work. No change comes without work involved.
We all want our children to succeed and, as such, we may or may not set the bar too low and not encourage a growth mindset.
Start by giving your child a way and a means to reach higher goals rather than labelling them as “not good in math,” or “better in art.”
I have been guilty of this myself with my own children. I see the differences in the way they learn and the way they communicate and it is easy to put them into a box. I am learning to see them for what they are, as individuals, each with their own interests and different ways of thinking.
Here are some guides as a parent.
· Don’t set the bar too high, as unrealistic expectations and goals are not beneficial.
· Don’t set the bar too low so that no challenge or growth is initiated.
· Offer constructive criticism in order to have your child reach and grow, which sends the message that they are most certainly capable of doing great things as long as they choose to. A growth mindset is for everyone.
When it comes to changing your mind, you have a choice. Face the areas of your life that are your weakest; avoidance doesn’t work, work hard in that area to excel, and never stop learning. I will be sharing more about mindsets in the next few weeks.
So how is your mindset? Share with me your thoughts in the comments below, I can’t wait to hear them.
Big Hugs, Em xxx
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